Wednesday, December 18, 2019

Sweden (Part 3): Sweden: Becoming a Child again at Christmas

      "We are better throughout the year for having in spirit, become a child again at Christmastime."  --Laura Ingalls Wilder

    "Christmas, my child, is love in action. Every time we love, every time we give, it's Christmas.   --Dale Evans

I am an unabashed lover of Christmas--the traditions, music, magic in children's eyes, sparkly lights, and coziness around a candle or firelight. Going to Sweden last year near Christmas was like a little child getting to go to the North Pole to see Santa. It seems all the splendor of Christmastime was months in the planning in Sweden--the beauty of the lights, music, traditions, food, and snowy walks by a lake. The child in me was filled every moment--being wide-eyed and anticipating every new tradition. In the last year, I have closed my eyes a few times to remember the special winter wonderland walks. 

I think it is good every Christmas to reflect on the traditions we want to give. Are they softening our hearts to become more like a child? Are we serving with no strings attached? Do we occasionally leave the coziness of electric lights and go outside to surround ourselves with the stars?

What makes you happy at Christmas? Here are some of the things the Swedes do:

  •                           Gathering Light

Being outside on the streets, markets, walking around the lake is the way the Swedes live. Snowstorms were meant to enjoy.

First of all, everywhere there is light gathered in--candles, stars in windows. No matter if there is not much light. Homes are lit up, and almost every house has windows with starts. Talk about being star-struck!

If there is not a star, a candle lights the way.... Seriously, candles are everywhere.... even on the streets, in the stores. On Christmas Eve, candles are everywhere

Lanterns outside under frosty-tipped trees. Christmas trees have to be real and as big as can be accommodated. Swedes usually collect their tree on the day before Christmas Eve. It is a serious matter. Family decorations are important of course, but soft white lights are greatly preferred, not colored ones.

Soft lights and boughs of real fir trees everywhere. 

The most beautiful and enticing windows where the lights almost gesture you to come inside....

An entire nation watching the same show together

Every morning during the advent since 1960, everyone gathers around to watch the Julkalender--an ongoing story that ends on Christmas Eve. I am watching it here in Stockholm at 7 am and it goes for half an hour. All the kids wake up to watch the advent story (a different one each year) before school. On Christmas Eve day, the entire country watches Donald Duck together at 3 pm. There is a lot of camaraderie in the country by knowing everyone is watching the same thing together. They all say, "I know it sounds strange, but that is what we all do."

Go outside!

I love this picture along the lake. There must have been 100 little boats on the edge of the lake, taking a rest from the summer swims. I love the way the Swedes take in every moment outside since there is so little winter light. There is a proud Viking spirit of strength and endurance that still lives on.... Soon this lake will be frozen enough for people to come and skate on. Hot chocolate is sold along the edge of the lake for skaters and walks who are passing by. Ice fishing and even jumping into icy waters brings lots of enthusiasts. 
There is a beautiful lake to the right. Kids run outside--just this time in different clothes. The Swedes say it is not about the weather, just about what clothes you wear.

Sunrise by the lake at about 9

Sharing winter moments outside together with loved ones

A winter land of white against Elias's red Santa suit

                The Julbord--A Scandinavian feast or
                banquet--like a smorgasbord

An entire blog could be written about the julbord alone; there are five courses! 1) pickled herring 2) Other fish 3) Cold meats, pates, and terrines 4) Hot food, and 5) Desserts There are tables upon tables of food--not just ordinary food, but of festive delicacies--both cold and hot dishes. It is customary to begin with the cold fishes dishes, which are various forms of herring, salmon, and eel, smoked and pickled fish, baked ham, Swedish meatballs, reindeer, pates, wild duck and boar, glazed ribs, boiled potatoes, cheeses, salad, relishes, beetroot, and different cabbages, snd then desserts. 

Most Swedes go out to restaurants for the julbords--with family and then with coworkers. 

A julbord offering....

A feast never to be forgotten. 
Some special drinks and foods of the season:

Julmust is a non-alcoholic drink made from water, sugar, hops, malt, and spices. Think of a really, really sweet root beer
This was my favorite Christmas dessert called Risgrynsgrot (rice pudding or sometimes called rice porridge) This tradition started in 1328. It is normally served with a dusting of cinnamon with an almond hidden in the pudding. Whoever gets the almond will get married soon (or maybe fall in love) or as to compose thanks in rhyme.  Recipe for Swedish Rice Pudding or Porridge
Glogg, mulled juice or wine with almonds and raisons in it. I just drink the juice one. Gingersnap cookies (called peppakakor) are usually accompanied with the glogg  Recipe for Swedish gingersnaps

Being with Loved Ones
My cousin are here at the local Home Depot store and they have glogg, almonds and gingersnaps out for the customers. Christmas is everywhere in Sweden!!!!
Making our own gingerbread houses--another family tradition....

Special Decorations

Gnomes are everywhere in Sweden....

The decorated windows could keep me entertained for hours

Going to church

Enjoying the peace of the Prince of Peace who we celebrate..... One of my favorite Swedish Christmas songs

The lights and music of Santa Lucia are hauntingly beautiful. I have to admit I had some tears listening to it. 

Sharing Ourselves
Sharing ourselves with loved ones and strangers... Elias, my son with autism, who is practicing some Swedish words on a train in Stockholm. This 82-year-old woman that favored us with stories in perfect English of World War2 memories.

Some other ideas from the Swedes:

Friday, November 29, 2019

Finding Water in our Wildernesses

If the desert is holy, it is because its a forgotten place that allows us to remember the sacred. Perhaps that is why every pilgrimage to the desert is a pilgrimage to the self. There is no place to hide and we are found.             --Terry Tempest Williams

The desert still has a memory of water, and that memory is a living thing. It is infused into the sand. It is part of its essence.      --Thomas Lloyd Qualis

Joseph navigating with a fellow traveler at an oasis spot in Qatar.

When I was a teenager, I begged my parents to allow me to go on a survival camping trip for one month in the southern Utah desert. About two days into the trip, there were some miscalculations and our group did not have any water as we trekked across the summer desert around Escalante for a day. I was 16, and my sister was 15. She and a few other hikers were having a difficult time--one was seeing mirages and the others were having trouble putting blistered feet in front of one another.

Drinking water, like breathing, rhythms we do without even thinking, suddenly became a premium. We will do almost anything to obtain them. On that fiery June day I learned how much a sip of water can mean to someone. I found the strength to go with one of the leaders to retrieve water to give to people who were depending on us. That was a day when water meant more than money, jewels, mansions, ice cream, anything. To find the water and then bring it back to my sister and friends was an errand I have never forgotten. I felt so much joy that I could give them the water they most desperately needed and wanted. And like all of us, sometimes the roles are reversed, and I have been the receiver as others have fetched and given me water in a figurative wilderness.

A favorite moment when we could serve to those who had fasted all day in the hot sun for Ramadan.

One time on a walk along the beach in Qatar, we were met by a clan of Sudanese people who invited us, their fellow travelers, to eat with them. Meeting people who you would have never met before happens in the wilderness.

After living in the arid Qatar desert for five years, I sometimes think of that day when I hear of the old Middle East caravans that roamed through the sand searching for their oasis or remote wells. Rawda means garden in Arabic, which are green pockets in the desert. They form in depressions in the desert surface. Fine soils blown  by the wind are gradually deposited and compacted in the depressions, allowing plants to grow in it. Rawda are known as sweet, fertile soil areas where people for centuries have tried to find a sign of water. These are where different plants, gardens, and date plantations grow in a parched desert--in unexpected places. As travelers in a wilderness, we need to know the traces and marks of where to look. Often times, there is not enough time to roam aimlessly: water is immediately needed. And then we stay at a particular oasis until we have been nourished and sustained enough--until we have to go to the next fertile place.

I think we are all trekking through our wildernesses, some with loaded camels of possessions, even abundant supplies. Others have barely anything or nothing on their backs as they search for their oasis in the desert. We are all on the look-out for water. Sometimes people are mistaken and see artificial wells of water, like ancient travelers saw mirages. They think the precious streams of water in their mind's vision are real, but alas, they have been fooled by the scorching sun. And then again water can be deceivingly crystal pure, but it holds poison and disease as it beckons us.

To find true, unadulterated water is a journey that sometimes we have to zig-zag across the desert for. The desert can be a teacher as we go alone on our pilgrimage to find our water. We have to leave comfort and the familiar to find the living water in the wilderness. Occasionally we do not want to pack up to go to the next oasis, but our guide tells us it is time to leave the sweet contentment of the oasis for another one that is better for our loved ones and/or ourselves. Changing course and adjusting to another terrain is part of searching for water. Being adaptable in a wilderness is definitely a prerequisite for a successful journey. Sometimes we have to be alone--other times we travel in a caravan.

As we have now left Qatar, a wilderness where I learned to grow and thrive, to live in China, I find myself a traveler going from one gorgeous rawda to another. Both places quench my thirst on the journey of finding living water. Like desert nomads, all of us have to retrieve water to nourish us--finding verdant places in an expansive wilderness. We have to learn to keep moving and filling our pots--opening our sky ever wider. And in the criss-crossing of the desert, we will find our fellow travelers again who were with at past fruitful grounds. Perhaps that is my strongest gratification. We are never alone in the wilderness. Everyone else is just trying to find their water too. For my friends who I miss, I know we will be in the same caravan again someday!

I like this picture behind our house--showing the small patches of vegetation we could see most of the time. 

A Syrian man who was selling fruit we met on a walk near our house one day in Qatar. Finding Fruit in our wilderness

The lush vegetation of Muscat, Oman

My mom on a journey to find the water, meeting an expected friend from Jordan.

A painting by @AnnyKu of the Zeekret wilderness in Qatar--notice the person on the pilgrimage in the background

Fellow travelers on a campout....

Sometimes the water comes sneaks up on us when we are not looking....

Finding the fruitfulness and harvest of the desert. If we keep searching, the abundance of the harvest will come. 

Tuesday, September 24, 2019

France and Belgium: WWI Silent Witnesses

The thought that Jock died for his country is no comfort to me. His memory is all I have left to love. 
                          --John Low's fiance, January 10, 1918, UK

We can truly say that the whole circuit of the earth is girdled with the graves of our dead. In the course of my pilgrimage, I have many times asked myself whether there can be more potent advocates of peace upon the earth through the years to come, than this massed multitude of silent witnesses to the desolation of war.   
                     --King George V, Tyne Cot Cemetery, 11 May 1922

The belief in the possibility of a short decisive war appears to be one of the most ancient and dangerous of human illusions. 
                                            --Robert Wilson Lynd

"They shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old: Age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn. At the going down of the sun and in the morning, we will remember them." 
 --Laurence Binyon

World War I changed the world and we are still feeling the ripples today in shattered alliances and forging new countries that did not exist before that splintering war. I shudder to think of the broken promises and inability to find lasting peace after so much horror.  It is a war whether we want to admit it or not lives on--even though it has been over 100 years since it ended. For all the good intentions, the League of Nations did not solve the divisions it promised.

I have always been interested in World War I, also known as the First World War of the Great War--a global war originating in Europe that lasted from 28 July 1914 to 11 November 1918. My great-uncle and my husband's grandfather fought in the WW 1 trenches, but they were long gone before I was born. Their stories I only heard from others. But in Europe, the voices are still in the June poppies, the statues in almost every town that bears the names who fought and died, and in the wind that blows through the hundreds of cemeteries. You can practically see their faces and hear their calls to one another as you walk in the trenches where they fought and fell.

This summer we happened to be in France for a week before we attended the 75th anniversary of D-Day in Normandy. My husband's father landed on Omaha beach as a strong and courageous 22-year-old young man--being blinded six weeks later. Interestingly enough, my father-in-law's own father also fought in France a generation before in WW1. Apparently, he rarely spoke of the experience to his son. All my father-in-law knew from relatives was that Charles Nephi Shumway, known as "Nef" was never the same once he returned from northern France as a young man in his late 20's. He shrouded those trench-filled years--never wanting his son to know the horrors and nightmares he had known in the battles of Saint Mihiel and the Meuse Argonne Offensive. Little did he know, that his own son would see the fox holes of Normandy, France in World War II.

A seemingly ordinary picture of an older couple, my husband's grandparents. Charles or "Nef" Shumway fought in the last battles of WWI in France. It was said that he was never the same again. WWI trenches haunted him all of his life, and then like many of his generation, he watched his young son follow him into WWII where he would land on D-Day. Smith Shumway promised his parents he would come home with all of his limbs swinging, but he could not predict that blindness would be his scar from the war. To see his son's blindness pained his father, but he learned to respect his son's resilience and strength as he faced his battles after the war.

We also looked up in the Canadian war records my great uncle (my grandmother's brother) who fought in the late part of the war--being injured as a 23-year-old young man in England. I had always heard about him from my grandmother, and how he too was never the same again when he came back home to Canada. No one at that time understood about PTSD. 

My grandmother's brother, Frank Vatnsdal, who was wounded in an English hospital from some bombings there. He never made it to France but came home to Canada a few years later. Everyone in the family always said he fought in the Battle of the Somme in France, but I learned after some research that he never made it over the English Channel. His battle came in the form of bombings in a training camp in Britain even before he could make it to the real battles in France. It was interesting to know that he fought the war in a training camp in England...

J.R. Tolkien who wrote The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings during the Battle of the Somme and lost many close comrades started writing in the trenches of France. Creating the story of the Middle-Earth was his way to not succumb to despair, He wanted the world to know that soldiers who fight evil are never the same again when they come home. Tolkien wrote:

"Alas! There are some wounds that cannot be fully cured," said Gandalf.

"I fear it may be so with mine," said Frodo. "There is no real going back. Though I may come to the Shire, it will not seem the same, for I shall not be the same."

I only wish that every world leader could tour around World War I and II battlegrounds before they take their office. In my opinion, it should be a necessary pilgrimage for each to slowly wander the cemeteries of northern France, Belgium, and so many other places. Perhaps if they trekked together as a solemn group, they would understand the colossal desolation of war--that there were other solutions to face their enemies. Indeed, battles are fought with real lives, real people, who face scars, wounds, and death for us who live because of them. We must do everything we can to remember them individually--even if it is painful--so that we can understand the cost of their offering.

Allied and Associated Powers
British Empire8,904,467908,3712,090,212191,6523,190,23535.8
United States4,355,000116,516204,0024,500323,0188.1
Central Powers
Grand total65,038,8108,528,83121,189,1547,750,91937,468,90457.5

                                              Sites near The Battle of the Somme

In almost every square or village in France and Belgium they honor the people who gave their lives.
Bony, France, in the very northern tip of France where the Battle of the Somme occurred.

At the Battle of the Somme Museum in a a chateau in Peronne, France

More artifacts at the The Museum of the Great War in Peronne, France

A picture of a soldier who was married right before the war. 

Here is a picture of his widow many years later after the war that killed her young husband.

Auguste Delengaigne, a French soldier who was considered "France's most severely mutilated soldier."

Battle of the Somme fields

You can still see and in some places walk the trenches in Beaumont Hamel. The attack was a devastating failure. In a single morning, almost 20,000 troops died and another 37,000 were wounded. The Canadian Newfoundland Regiment was almost wiped out. The battle was on the first day of the Battle of the Somme on 1 July, 1916.

More trenches...

In the trenches in Beaumont-Havel

A photo in the Beaumont-Havel trenches

At the Beaumont-Hamel site where the guide showed the students how many people died in the battle. She brought them together as a group, and then showed by the hour how many men died by telling them they had been shot. At the end of her talk, only three students were still living. Out of about 50 students, it was very sobering to all of us.
Joseph and Elias at Beaumont-Hamel

Everywhere were poppy wreaths.

The Thiepval Museum near Thiepval, France is a war memorial to 72, 337 men from Britain and South Africa who died in the Battles of the Somme from 1915 to 1918. 

       At Tyne Cot Museum near the town of Leper,  Belgium

A girl dressed up like a WWI nurse that came to see the cemetery.


                                                            Ypres, Belgium

Pictured is a British young boy with his father in Ypes, Belgium. Since his relative died in the war, the young boy has become very interested in WW I so his dad brought him over the English Chanel to see what happened over 100 years ago.

Thousands of people gather every night to honor the veterans from Belgium every night. They have been coming since 1928. They stopped during WW2, but then started again. 

Walking up the stairs to the monument

The English choir who sang for the ceremony that night. Every night at 7:00 in Ypres, France there is a ceremony to honor the dead who fought and died in Belgium, particularly near Ypres. 

Wilfred Owens, a Canadian soldier who wrote in "In Flanders Fields" after his good friend was killed. Owens died later--right before the war ended.

The beautiful poppies that were everywhere in the fields of France and Belgium in late May and early June.

In Flanders Fields

In Flanders fields the poppies blow 
Between the crosses, row on row, 
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
scare heard amid the guns below.

We are the Dead. Short days ago 
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow, 
Loved and were loved, and now we lie 
in Flanders fields. 

Take up our quarrel with the foe:
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high. 
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow 
in Flanders fields

                         By John McCrae

At the American Somme Cemetery 

A distant relative we found in the American Cemetery

Elias and Joseph strolling through the American cemetery